Link between Macho Culture and Violent Boys
In the book "I don’t want to talk about it", Terrence Real provides a road map to the hidden emotional life of boys and men. He traces the links between masculine culture and covert depression, and the detour sadness takes to become violence. How awful that by burying their feelings in silence and then externalizing them through aggression and addiction, these sad and hurt boys (troubled teens) find a way to get through the day. As he speaks about one of his teen patients, Real reports, “A life-time of inattention to his emotions and his relationships was perched precariously over a childhood of profound psychological neglect.”
That’s what the future holds for aggressive boys if they are not helped to reconnect with their emotions and see clearly the role these feelings play in producing their acts of violence and thus wrecking their lives. This redirection can happen for boys, but it takes a lot of work and a lot of skilled psychological and spiritual leadership. Financial cuts to mental health services in schools and juvenile detention facilities and the secular nature of most programs put this desperately needed leadership in short supply. It is a major public policy issue for citizen and governments to address.
That’s what the future holds for aggressive boys if they are not helped to reconnect with their emotions and see clearly the role these feelings play in producing their acts of violence and thus wrecking their lives. This redirection can happen for boys, but it takes a lot of work and a lot of skilled psychological and spiritual leadership. Financial cuts to mental health services in schools and juvenile detention facilities and the secular nature of most programs put this desperately needed leadership in short supply. It is a major public policy issue for citizen and governments to address.
